First Pregnancy Loss & Grief Coach in Singapore | Featured on CNA, MediaCorp & The Straits Times | ICF-Accredited Coach
As Singapore's pioneering pregnancy loss coach, Vernessa Chuah has supported parents through miscarriage, stillbirth, TFMR, IVF Fertility loss since 2021
70% of the women
who receive Vernessa’s deep, personalised coaching and emotional care are holding their children now
Through the Kintsugi Journey, a 12-session programme, bereaved parents in Singapore and across Asia learn to regulate their nervous system, process grief, and find their way forward with awareness and peace.
This is a heart-centred and trauma-informed work.
We work with the body, emotions, and language because healing happens when all three are given tender care.
Pregnancy and birth are tender and unpredictable.
There is no guarantee or promise of outcomes.
Some women go on to conceive. Some don’t.
Yet, all leave here with steadier ground beneath them.
If something inside you is asking for care,
If you feel a quiet resonance, please know you don't have to walk this alone.
In Japan, there is an art form called Kintsugi.
When a piece of pottery breaks, they don’t throw it away or hide the cracks with invisible glue.
Instead, they mend the shatter-lines with pure gold.
The piece becomes stronger,
more resilient,
and more beautiful precisely because it was once broken.
It is a private, nurturing space where we take the shattered pieces of your experience — the pain, the sadness, the "what ifs”, and slowly, gently, begin to mend them.
Your 12-session journey is your "Golden Joinery."
Your cracks do not make you weak.
They are where the gold can enter.
Integrating your loss is like a leaf with gold vein
The loss is permanent, the "gold" is the healing you do afterwards
Examine the language and beliefs that shape how you experience grief. Shift from 'I am broken' to 'I am healing.' Rebuild emotional resilience after miscarriage, stillbirth or infant loss through language, narrative and identity work.
Your body holds grief as much as your mind does. Learn somatic practices to discharge trauma, regulate the nervous system, and release the physical weight of pregnancy loss from your body.
An effective, safe and gentle body practice developed by Dr David Berceli to activate the body's natural tremor mechanism to release deep muscular tension and stress accumulated from pregnancy loss trauma.
Ground yourself in the present moment rather than cycling through grief, fear, and anxiety. Mindfulness-based practices help you move out of survival mode and into steadier emotional ground after baby loss.
An evidence-based, structured approach to emotional healing after loss. The GRM helps you identify and release incomplete emotional communications attached to your miscarriage, stillbirth, TFMR or IVF loss — so you can move forward, not just cope.
Creative, non-verbal expression to honour your baby and process what words sometimes cannot reach. Art journaling integrates emotional processing with somatic awareness, giving your grief a safe and tangible container to be heard.
Vernessa Chuah is Singapore's pioneering pregnancy loss coach and grief recovery specialist, supporting bereaved parents across Singapore, Malaysia, Indonesia, Philippines, Hong Kong, Australia and globally since 2011.
Having personally experienced miscarriage, TFMR (termination for medical reasons), pregnancy complications, and rainbow pregnancy anxiety, Vernessa brings lived understanding to every coaching session.
As featured on Channel NewsAsia, The Straits Times, Mediacorp Channel 8, and Sassy Mama, she is recognised as a leading voice on pregnancy loss, baby loss, and grief recovery in Asia.
She believes in holding a safe and gentle container for different emotions to be seen and vulnerability to be acknowledged.
ICF-Accredited Ontological Coach | Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist | Certified TRE (Tension Release Exercises) Practitioner
I had a breakthrough during my pregnancy loss coaching with Vernessa. It was helpful that I could reach in and connect with my emotions, knowing that I am more than my emotions, and I can hold space for myself.
Vernessa's calm, non-judgmental approach helps me feel safe and grounded. I'm so glad I found her.
The sessions are calming, supportive, and transformational."
Emotional care and healing for miscarriage, stillbirth, termination, infant loss, IVF or fertility-related loss.
" The sessions are an eye-opener, and I am grateful to Vernessa for taking the time to go through my blind spots with me.
It’s personal, speaks to my heart and touches the raw points compared to just a generic coaching session. Vernessa often asks the right questions and makes me reflect instead of just passing standard solutions."
" It was helpful that I could reach in and connect with my emotions.
I learned that I am more than my emotions, and I can hold space for myself.
Vernessa's calm, non-judgmental approach helps me feel safe and grounded. I'm so glad I found her.
The sessions are calming, supportive, and transformational."
The coaching helped me gain clarity about why I was doing certain things, my inner narrative and the association I had with my achievement and identity.
The shift I noticed in myself since coaching with Vernessa is that I am nicer to myself, especially when going through something difficult.
The questions asked were really good, certainly difficult to answer at times, but they helped me to confront my subconscious thoughts and discover new insights.
My previous experience with counselling seems to be pushing me towards a mould or expected stereotype.
I felt Vernessa’s coaching was different in a more personal way, as though it were a conversation with a friend rather than an authoritative figure diagnosing my situation. I would recommend her if you are looking for coaching.
"My body actually has so much to release. I was surprised that the somatic came so naturally, and I guess it's a way my body is communicating with me. I think Tension Release Exercise is a good self-care maintenance tool, as I don’t like dealing with difficult feelings for too long.
This tool allows me to "release" what no longer serves me and probably puts me in a better frame of mind and body to visit my issues without being overly triggered or burdened by it.
It felt like my nervous system was able to heave a huge sigh of relief. Throughout my day, I just felt relaxed. Knowing that I have access to this tool gives me the assurance that I can look after myself even when things get really tough.
Vernessa is a very thoughtful and supportive. The pace was just right for me. It didn't feel rushed, and I didn't feel nervous."
44 pregnancy losses occur every minute, yet many women are medically discharged, with no emotional care and follow-up.
You don't have to be one of them.
A gentle opening to create safety, trust, and clarity. We explore where you are right now, emotionally, mentally, and somatically. With ontological coaching, using reflective dialogue and creative expression through art to express what may feel unspoken.
Grounding and body-based practices to support regulation, helping your system feel safer and more supported as the journey deepens with mindfulness and Tension Release Exercises (TRE®).
Invites the body to gently release held tension, stress and anxiety while using creative journaling reflection to integrate sensations, emotions, and insights.
Explore how the loss has shaped your inner world—your sense of self, beliefs, and narratives, while supporting embodied release and regulation with somatic work.
Begin Grief Recovery Method® Heartwork, exploring how language, social conditioning, and unhelpful messages about grief may have shaped your experience.
Gently identify patterns you may have used to survive without judgment andbringing awareness to what has helped, and what may no longer serve you.
A compassionate exploration of your personal grief history, honouring cumulative losses and unprocessed experiences.
Focus on the relationship that was lost, allowing space for emotional truth, love, pain, and incomplete emotional communication.
Supports gentle emotional completion, helping you express what has remained unsaid and release the lingering emotional weight of what you wish could be better, more or different.
Explore healthier ways of communicating and expressing emotions, including grief, with yourself and others to support integration and ongoing care beyond the programme.
A return to the body to support deeper integration of the emotional work completed, while reflecting on shifts, insights, and inner changes.
A gentle closing to honour your journey, acknowledge growth and resilience, and support a grounded, compassionate relationship with life moving forward.
If you are tired of functioning on the outside while carrying stress, fear, and anxiety on the inside, this is your invitation.
Not promising outcomes, just honest possibilities.
When I finally held my earth baby, Elvanna, I realised that every birth is a miracle, but so is every mother who survives the storm.
My angel babies guide my work every day, and they have taught me that vulnerability is not a weakness.
It is the doorway to your greatest strength.
Your story deserves to be heard. Your grief deserves to be honoured.
If you are tired of holding it together,
If part of you wants to move forward but doesn’t know how,
I am here for you.
The Kintsugi Journey is for anyone who has experienced miscarriage, stillbirth, termination for medical reasons (TFMR), infant loss, IVF or fertility-related loss.
It is also suitable for pregnancy after loss, if you are currently pregnant and are constantly carrying a fear that lives in your bones, the kind that makes every scan feel like a countdown, or every quiet hour without a kick feel like a crisis, please know that there is room to change how you move through it.
It is especially suited for those who function well outwardly but carry grief quietly inside, feel anxiety or fear around their body or future pregnancy, and want private, personalised support rather than group sharing or clinical therapy.
You are a healthy being.
In coaching, we believe the client is whole and knows the answers deep down. You are not broken or need to be fixed. Coaching is a co-partnership and co-creation. The coach asks powerful questions to shine a light on your awareness so you can seek different observations and possibilities. In therapy, there is an assumption that an issue is to be diagnosed and treated. The therapist provides solutions and advice.
We focus on the future.
In coaching, we focus on the present and future. The aim is to move forward with what happened and support you to reach your new goal and vision. We emphasise the present and future. When we go back to the past, our intention is to bring new awareness.
In therapy, you dive into the past to address unresolved trauma, anxiety and fear, mental health concerns and deep emotional wounds. It may involve long-term exploration of underlying issues affecting your behaviour and emotions.
Coaching is not a substitute; it is complementary.
While coaching can address patterns influenced by past experiences, it is not a substitute for medical, psychiatric treatment or therapy. In the event of mental health concerns (depression, unresolved trauma that requires clinical support) or crisis situations (violence, abuse, or other critical concerns) that requires intervention by legal or therapeutic professionals, I will guide you toward appropriate resources while continuing to provide support within my area of expertise.
The work here integrates somatic awareness and emotional processing. Many women seek this form of support when they want a compassionate space to process grief in a holistic and non-clinical way.
It is a gentle, trauma-informed coaching and grief support approach for women navigating miscarriage, stillbirth, termination, infant loss, IVF or fertility-related loss.
You may seek support at any stage – soon after loss, or years later when grief continues to live in the body. There is no “right timing” for grief support. Sessions are paced gently according to your readiness and emotional capacity.
Research shows that support within the first 6 weeks of loss has a significantly higher success rate in preventing prolonged grief disorder and achieving success for future pregnancy.
You are welcome to a safe and compassionate space for your baby loss.
Clients often experience reduced anxiety and emotional overwhelm, greater nervous system regulation, less fear around future pregnancy, and a sense of grounded resilience. 70% of the women who received Vernessa's coaching between 2021–2025 are now holding their children.
This is not a guarantee but a reflection of what can unfold when the mind and body move out of chronic anxiety.
Yes. This support is suitable for mothers who are currently pregnant after a previous miscarriage, stillbirth, termination, infant loss, IVF or fertility-related loss.
Many women carry grief, fear, and uncertainty into a new pregnancy. A version of Kintsugi Journey has been adapted for pregnant mothers to support their nervous system regulation, emotional steadiness, and physical safety.
If you are seeking support during pregnancy after loss, you are welcome here.
You do not need to be ready to talk about everything. Many women begin support while feeling unsure, numb, or overwhelmed.
This is a gentle and safe container that respects silence, pacing, and emotional readiness. Support may include gentle grounding, body awareness, or simply being accompanied in your experience.
If you are looking for gentle grief support after miscarriage, stillbirth, IVF or fertility loss or termination, you are welcome exactly as you are.
The 12-session Kintsugi Journey is a deep, personal and heart-centred coaching programme that weaves together ontological coaching, somatic and nervous system regulation, Tension Release Exercises (TRE), mindfulness and embodied awareness, art journaling and reflection, and the Grief Recovery Method. Sessions are 60 minutes each over 3–12 months, at your pace.
I am a Singapore-based practitioner that serve globally. Support is available both online and in person (for Singapore-based moms).
Many women living with Asian heritage prefer to seek support for pregnancy loss that understands their culture and background.
Online sessions are suitable for those who prefer privacy, flexibility, or live abroad.
If you are seeking support for pregnancy loss in Singapore, you can reach out to learn more about the available in-person option.
Yes. I offer private 1:1 coaching in-person in Singapore and online for clients across Southeast Asia and globally. The Kintsugi Journey can be completed entirely via online sessions.
The Kintsugi Journey is an investment of SGD $3,000 for 12 private one-to-one sessions. Sessions are available in-person in Singapore or online for Southeast Asia and globally. The commitment is 3–12 months (at your pace) with 60-minute sessions.
